Sunday, August 31, 2008

Not your average fishing trip

Now that I got all mushy and apparently scared the jaded cousins, I'll keep things a little lighter (maybe) with some Canada pics and stories :) We left Friday morning, August 15th, and returned to Phoenix Saturday night, August 23rd. My boss almost had a coronary because we were in the middle of preparing for trial, but I managed to get out of work for a week, and even finagled some vacation pay! Dan had told me several times that there were no cell phones or communication with the "outside world" but being the skeptic I only half believed him. Turns out there was no cell reception, no clocks, no calendars, nothing. This was probably the first time in my life I have been in this kind of situation and it was AMAZING. I didn't think about work, my apartment, school, if the neighborhood cats were sleeping in my car, or anything else besides having a great time. We traveled all day Friday and got into Syracuse that night. Rich, Dan's oldest brother, picked us up from the airport and we went out with a friend of his to a real upstate New York bar, which was quite the thrill. There's nothing like being stared down by real grizzly looking old men who have been regulars at that bar forever, and then being kicked out early because the bartender was "tired."

I was abruptly woken up the next morning by a wild animal making all sorts of unintelligible noises. Given the fact that we were in a hotel, I looked around in confusion to see if a raccoon or stray dog had wandered into our room. Nope, turns out it was just my ole' Bear Griz making the first sounds of excitement for Canada. After living the Canadian experience I now understand the basis behind those noises and yelps of excitement, but at the time I was seriously wondering what kind of animal had eaten my boyfriend and taken over his body.

We spent the morning driving and had our first family sighting at the Gander Mountain, where Dan & Rich picked out a lovely "Lady Shakespeare" fishing pole for me. I stumbled across cousin Chris Brogdale (Buckwheat) and Tony the Tiger (fake cousin, pretty much real cousin by now). I had seen pictures of all of them so I recognized the guys immediately. We all picked out our fishing gear and headed on to the Duty Free where the rest of the family was congregating. The Duty Free is the little shop before the border where you can buy products without sales tax. So everyone picked out their favorite case of beer, along with a couple bottles of whiskey for the boys, and headed out to the border. Next stop was the Lakeview where they always stop for lunch and to check when the ice melted that year. It was great finally meeting all these people I had heard so much about. They were exactly as Dan had described them. And so begins the great week of Canada.I can't really go day by day and give a synopsis from this point forward because the days pretty much all blended together. No time, no agenda, no deadlines, no tasks, no expectations. The only plan is that there is NO plan. That is pretty much how the week went from then on out. Uncle Mark, the crazy fisherman and otherwise eccentric member of the family, was missing this year because of work, and so there were a lot of somber moments from everyone missing his presence. He used to go into everyone's cabins at unreasonable hours of the morning and yell unintelligible things at everyone until they joined him in the fishing boat. So this year, without the Uncle Mark interventions, we all slept in and enjoyed a slow transition into daylight :) Every day we had the island swim... which some people participated in more than others. I finally found something I can easily beat Dan in, which felt pretty good. I was rocking the backstroke, but apparently my navigation skills were a little off and I ended up swimming in the wrong direction most of the time. But, I still managed to beat everyone but Jeremiah so I'm not that concerned about it! After the island swim Rich cleared everyone out of the kitchen and worked up some gourmet breakfasts. I assumed that as the only girl in the cabin I'd be doing a lot of cooking, but as it turned out I was chased out of the cooking area every time I even tried to help. Not a bad deal if you ask me. Then from there we spent our days fishing, taking joy rides on the boat, listening to Radiohead, going on adventures to Blue Lake and Crotch Lake, and anything else you can do in the crisp Canadian air with a beautiful lake in front of you.

Monday night started off the Poker shenanigans, in which the nephews (Chris & Dan) ended up cleaning their Uncle Paul & Bernie's pockets out. We'll just say Dan paid for this year's Canada trip, and possibly next year's, hehe ;) Tuesday night was the real poker tourney at the local bar Northbrook, and he didn't do as well that night, but I think Monday's victory is enough to keep him going all year long! The girls enjoyed playing pool and ordered up some delicious shots like "Oatmeal Cookie" while we watched the guys play poker. Wednesday night was the annual Karaoke night up at the Lancaster's Lodge. Dan & Tony got the night started off right with their usual performance of Bohemian Rhapsody... I will have to post the video of this because it was hilarious. Dan really enjoys exercising his vocal chords and he was definitely in his prime that night. Everyone showed up decked out in crazy wigs and hats and it was a great night... the ending of which will not be discussed in this blog, as I am the content manager... thanks Rich :)

The rest of the week had us getting serious about the fishing contest and we spent almost every possible hour out on the lake in search for MONGO, which Dan happened to catch Thursday afternoon. The fishing contest, in which victory is awarded with the CANADA CUP, is one of the main attractions of the annual Canada trip. Everyone puts their money in the Canada cup at the beginning of the week to compete in two categories: "Bass" and "Udder" (a.k.a. other, if you prefer to call it that). The Canada cup has a lot of history... apparently Uncle Bernie found this broken coffee mug at a junk store and brought it along to Canada, where it became the most sought after broken coffee mug in Canada's history! So Dan reeled in an 18 and 3/4 inch Bass on Thursday and knocked out the competition. He started to get a little too comfortable with his winning streak and was slaughtered the following day by his second cousin Tom, who reeled in a 19 and a half inch bass. We were pretty heartbroken, as the Canada Cup has never seen the west coast... we had even picked out a shelf to display it on. Sigh... there's always next year...


The last night was the awards ceremony and fish fry. The fish was excellent! All week long we ate so well. I think we averaged about 8 meals a day and just went from cabin to cabin scavenging food from random family members. One of my favorite things from the whole trip ended up being the Butter Tarts. They were oh so delicious. Raspberry, blueberry, brown sugar, bumbleberry, strawberry rhubarb... I was a kid in a candy shop for sure. Still every morning I wake up and think, a raspberry butter tart would really be great right now. And then I remember that I'm not in Canada and all I have is raspberry yogurt :( Which will just have to do, until I find myself in Ontario again. They have these little stands lining the streets where they slave away all day making fresh pies and butter tarts. It was unlike anything I had ever seen.

So I ended up cleaning up on all the awards the last night, which was pretty awesome. I got the award for "Woman Overboard" in relation to my little spill off the boat during the day on Friday. I was trying to cast a fish out as bait while standing on the edge of the boat (and obviously not putting 2 + 2 together) quickly went overboard, sacrificing my Lady Shakespeare pole and sunglasses to the lake :( As it turned out, half of the family was out on the lake at the exact time I took a little dive off the edge and witnessed the whole event. It was a pretty special moment for ValDez.Now to the nicknames, which I have failed to mention previously in this monster of a post. To be a participating member of the Canada week you have to have a nickname. There's Silverback for Uncle Gary, Peach for cousin Stacey, Lala for cousin Laura, Buckwheat or Buckshot for cousin Chris, Tony the Tiger for fake-nearly real cousin Tony, Itchyban for Rich, Bull Frog for Dan's younger brother Jeremiah, Moo Moo for Uncle Paul's girlfriend Tracy, Bern Dog or the mysterious "worm" for Uncle Bernie, my favorite - the "Canasian" for Bernie's girlfriend Susun, and Danimal the Animal for Dan. Dan's nickname was quite controversial this year. After the first day they had a family ruling and changed "Danimal the Animal" to "Danibell" because of Dan's love of taking romantic strolls hand in hand with a certain someone. As Rich stated, "You're only a shell of a man I used to know." LOL... I enjoyed every second of it! They thought it over Monday and came up with "Valdez" for me, which Lori and Stevie D. used to call me in high school, so the name made me very happy :) Then I learned why they were calling me Valdez... as it turns out it was the name of the ship that was involved in the biggest oil spill in U.S. history and one of the biggest environmental disasters of all time. I think Dan enjoyed that a little too much, haha. But I was also called by my runner up nickname, Valkatraz, by many, which Dan also enjoyed... relating that to me being the warden of his prison. So I was known in Canada as an environmental disaster, as well as the cruel prison warden ruining all of Dan's fun :)

Well there is so much more I could write... but it's hard to even tell people what I did in Canada. It was just one of those weeks where you "have to be there" to understand the full experience. A lot of families have reunions and vacations, but this week in Canada - which has been going for 50 years in Dan's family - was a really amazing thing to be a part of. It was more than just a family vacation, it is, as Dan calls it, a RESET for the year, giving everyone there an opportunity to reflect on the way they are living, what goals they want to accomplish for the next year, and also reconnect to family while surrounded by so many amazing views and things to do. I am just honored I was invited into the circle and treated like a member of the family the entire time I was there. Dan & I decided to take the Canadian spirit back to Phoenix and just let life unfold as it does with its surprises and delights from day to day. No more excessive planning and stress... just let the good times flow naturally and enjoy the special moments that come along so unexpectedly. We had a great weekend just listening to music, reminiscing on the trip, talking about life, grilling salmon, and enjoying each other's company. Another added perspective is exactly what I needed at the end of this year's summer. Life is hard... the long days are sometimes rough and wearing. I often wonder, "Am I doing the right thing? Am I living the right way?" But I came away from this realizing that every day that I learn something new and make connections in my own mind and with others, is a good day. All those little discoveries bring me one step closer to a life that is my own, a life that is rich and full of love and laughter. Thanks again to Dan and his family for giving me such an unforgettable and enjoyable experience!

Friday, August 29, 2008

After all, you're my Wonderwall

I remember the night Dan asked me to go to Canada with him. I think it was after one of his spring softball games and we were talking late into the night. I could tell he had thought about it more than a few times, and that this was something really important to him. It was just after his mom came to visit Phoenix and around the time we decided we liked each other more than just a little bit... like maybe a lot :) He told me about this week where time doesn't exist and everybody is always having fun and enjoying each other's company. I spent the next three months in anticipation for my first CANADA experience with the Griswold/Kitner/Brogdale crew. Everything he told me about how amazing this week is was true and then some. His family was so welcoming and the good times started to roll the very second we arrived. I don't hesitate in calling it the best week of my year.

I sit here now thinking about the amazing week we had in Canada... it never seems to leave my mind as I'm trying to get back in the daily routine of school and work. But not only that, I think about the last six months I've had with "Danimal the Animal"... "Bear Griz"... "Danibell"... my "Griz" or just plain Dan. Looking back on my time in Phoenix I am amazed at how much I've grown and how much I've learned. Some might think I've done that on my own, but I know how much of that I owe to Dan. I've never met a person who has pushed me harder to become more than what I thought I could be, and to think in ways I never have before. He has been there cheering for me every step of the way... as a listening ear on the hard days, someone to celebrate with on the exciting days, and a close friend and amazing boyfriend everyday in between. I came to Phoenix on a journey to find MYSELF, but as it turned out I found another person who came to play a big part in that process as well. I guess Uncle Evan knows me better than I thought he did because he gave me the opportunity to meet someone who has changed my life for the better... in a million different ways.

From a first date on Valentines Day... to exactly 6 months later leaving for Canada... it's been an amazing ride. It seems like I've lived 10 years of adventure and excitement or more in the last 6 months. We are two people from very different backgrounds... but have come to realize that we aren't all that much different on the inside. I look forward to everyday I have with Griz, because it always seems to get better than the day we had before.


Afterall, you're my Wonderwall :)

Song of the Week

Artist: Oasis
Song: "Wonderwall"
Album: (What's the Story) Morning Glory? - 1995
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Today is gonna be the day
That they're gonna throw it back to you.
By now you should've somehow
Realized what you gotta do.
I don't believe that anybody
Feels the way I do, about you now.

Backbeat, the word was on the street
That the fire in your heart is out.
I'm sure you've heard it all before
But you never really had a doubt.
I don't believe that anybody
Feels the way I do about you now.

And all the roads we have to walk are winding
And all the lights that lead us there are blinding.
There are many things that I
Would like to say to you, but I don't know how...

Because maybe, you're gonna be the one that saves me
And after all, you're my wonderwall.

Today was gonna be the day
But they'll never throw it back to you.
By now you should've somehow
Realized what you're not to do.
I don't believe that anybody
Feels the way I do, about you now.

And all the roads that lead you there are winding
And all the lights that light the way are blinding
There are many things that I
Would like to say to you, but I don't know how...

I said maybe, you're gonna be the one that saves me
And after all, you're my wonderwall.

I said maybe, you're gonna be the one that saves me
And after all, you're my wonderwall.

I said maybe, you're gonna be the one that saves me
And after all, you're my wonderwall.

Sunday, August 24, 2008

Song of the Week

First shot of Canada '08, a night on fire


This has always been a favorite song of mine, and the fact that
it's about Canada now only makes it that much better :)

Joni Mitchell
"A Case of You" - 1970
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Just before our love got lost you said

"I am as constant as a northern star"
And I said "Constantly in the darkness
Where's that at?
If you want me I'll be in the bar"

On the back of a cartoon coaster
In the blue TV screen light
I drew a map of Canada
Oh Canada
With your face sketched on it twice
Oh you're in my blood like holy wine
You taste so bitter and so sweet.

Oh I could drink a case of you darling
Still I'd be on my feet
Oh I would still be on my feet.

Oh I am a lonely painter
I live in a box of paints
I'm frightened by the devil
And I'm drawn to those ones that ain't afraid.

I remember that time you told me you said
"Love is touching souls"
Surely you touched mine
'Cause part of you pours out of me
In these lines from time to time
Oh, you're in my blood like holy wine
You taste so bitter and so sweet.

Oh I could drink a case of you darling
And I would still be on my feet
I would still be on my feet.

I met a woman
She had a mouth like yours
She knew your life
She knew your devils and your deeds
And she said
"Go to him, stay with him if you can
But be prepared to bleed"

Oh but you are in my blood
You're my holy wine
You're so bitter, bitter and so sweet

Oh, I could drink a case of you darling
Still I'd be on my feet
I would still be on my feet.

Wednesday, August 13, 2008

Tunafish, joy of my life

So, for those who know me well, or even moderately well, or hmm... probably even strangers know this about me, I LOVE tuna. It is pretty much the greatest, tastiest food out there and since becoming a poor and desperate college student in AZ I have consumed, on average, about 3 or 4 cans a week. Cheap, delicious, and packed with protein.

I just want to share the goodness of what I like to call "crazy tuna." Something about the combination of all these ingredients just hits the spot during a long day.

1 can of tuna
Sliced green onions
Diced dill pickles
Chopped celery
1 or 2 tb. of fat-free Miracle Whip (or mayo if you prefer)
LOTS of yellow mustard
Romaine lettuce or spinach
Sharp Cheddar Cheese, grated & mixed in

So, I'm sure this won't be a hit with my vegetarian/vegan readers, but I hope someone else out there finds this to be as delicious as I say it is!

Oh, and for the last step, put tuna on multigrain bread or a toasted bagel. Or just eat it plain if you happen to run out of bread before payday :)

Tuesday, August 12, 2008

Happy Birthday Mom!

Since I can't be there to say it in person, the blog will just have to do. Happy Birthday mom, I hope it's a good one!!!

For the song of the week I put up one of my mom's "favorites" (if you're Denice you'll say it "fav-rite") called "Tapestry" by Carole King. About a week ago I left my iPod at home so on my way to work I turned on the radio. This song randomly came on and I immediately thought of my mom because she used to listen to this album quite a bit. She didn't listen to much other than instrumental music growing up, but Carole King was one of the exceptions. The whole album is fun and I've enjoyed it over the years.

In our family at the person's birthday dinner we all go around and share our favorite memories of the birthday girl or guy. My favorite thing about mom this year is seeing how much she has grown in her new position at the UVU bookstore. She has been working there seasonally for years, initially starting out to help her old friend Kathy Rakisits who was the general manager for years. But just in the last couple years she took a full-time position as the buying manager. It seems like every time I have called her from Arizona she is in another random state on a business trip having a grand old time. She has gone all over this year visiting different merchandise shows. When I worked at UVU I used to walk over to the bookstore every couple of days to say HI and I could always tell whether or not she was in because you can hear her laughter all the way down the hall. Everyone at the bookstore loves mom... her fellow managers, all the other employees, and of course all the students who come in.

Well I love ya mom, thanks for all your help and support! You always keep our family laughing with your hilarious catch phrases and great stories.

HAPPY BIRTHDAY MOM!!!

Song of the Week

Carole King
"Tapestry"
Tapestry, 1971
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My life has been a tapestry of rich and royal hue
An everlasting vision of the ever-changing view

A wondrous woven magic in bits of blue and gold
A tapestry to feel and see, impossible to hold.

Once amid the soft silver sadness in the sky
There came a man of fortune, a drifter passing by

He wore a torn and tattered cloth around his leathered hide
And a coat of many colors, yellow-green on either side.


He moved with some uncertainty, as if he didn't know

Just what he was there for, or where he ought to go

Once he reached for something golden hanging from a tree

And his hand come down empty

Soon within my tapestry along the rutted road
He sat down on a river rock and turned into a toad
It seemed that he had fallen into someone's wicked spell

And I wept to
see him suffer, though I didn't know him well

As I watched in sorrow, there suddenly appeared
A figure gray and ghostly beneath a flowing beard
In times of deepest darkness, I've seen him dressed in black
Now my tapestry's unraveling; he's come to take me back

He's come to take me back.

Monday, August 11, 2008

Recipe of the Week

Here is a recipe Dan & I made last Thursday. It turned out really delicious and was fun to prepare, aside from the artichokes... which were pretty tough for even Engineer Dan to figure out :)

Along with the pasta I prepared a spinach salad that I've been making with my roommate Erin. We use a bag of spinach, red & green bell peppers, dried cherries or cranberries, a sprinkle of your choice of cheese, and a light balsamic vinaigrette dressing.

Spinach Fettuccine with Artichokes and Sun-dried Tomatoes:
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  • 1 tablespoon extra virgin olive oil
  • 1 medium onion, finely chopped
  • 3 medium artichokes, trimmed and sliced
  • 2 large garlic cloves, minced
  • 1 teaspoon fresh lemon juice
  • freshly ground pepper, to taste
  • sea salt, to taste
  • 1/4 cup dry white wine
  • 1/2 pound fresh spinach fettuccine, cooked until tender, drained
  • (reserve 1/4 cups of pasta water)
  • 6 sun-dried tomatoes, (plumped or packed in olive oil), coarsely chopped
  • 2 teaspoons fresh thyme, chopped
  • Parmigiano Reggiano Parmesan, freshly grated

Sauté onion in oil until tender. Add artichokes, garlic, lemon juice, salt, and pepper. Sauté for 7 to 8 minutes (until artichokes are tender). Add the wine, simmer for a few more minutes. Add reserved water to sauté mixture with sun-dried tomatoes and thyme. Add pasta to mixture, toss. Season with salt and pepper and serve topped with Parmesan.

Option: use 4 oz canned artichoke hearts or bottoms instead of fresh.

Serves 2

Per serving: 470 calories, 14 g protein, 10 g fat (3 saturated), 64 g carbohydrates, 65 mg cholesterol, 260 mg sodium. Exchanges: 4 bread, 1 lean protein, 11/2 fat.

Thursday, August 07, 2008

Song of the Week

Alicia Keys
"Tell You Something"
As I Am, 2008
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Get so caught up everyday,

Tryin' to keep it all together.
While the time just slips away
See I know nothing last forever.

Imagine there was no tomorrow,
Imagine that I couldn't see your face,
There'll be no limit to my sorrow
So all I can say...

I wanna tell you something
Give you somethin, show you in so many ways.
Cuz it would all mean nothin, If I don't say something
Before it all blows away.
Don't wanna wait to bring you flowers,
Waste another hour, let alone another day.
I'm gonna tell you something
Show you something, won't wait till it's too late!

I can't wait, I can't wait, I won't wait,
I don't wanna wait.

I won't wait 'till it's too late.

Just a simple conversation
Just a moment is all it takes.
I wanna be there just to listen (I wanna be here),
And I don't wanna hesitate...

Imagine there was no tomorrow,
Imagine that I couldn't see your face,
There'll be no limit to my sorrow
'Cause there is nothin that could fill that space.
Or that I put it off for too long,
I didnt say all that I had to say.
I wanna take the time to right the wrong...
before we get to that place


I wanna tell you something
Give you somethin, show you in so many ways.
'Cuz it would all mean nothin, If I don't say something
Before it all blows away.
Don't wanna wait to bring you flowers
Waste another hour, let alone another day
I'm gonna tell you something,
Show you something, won't wait till it's too late.

(Brigde)
Just lean on my shoulder
It's not over till its over
Don't worry 'bout it
Cause I'm gonna make sure our bond gets stronger
I don't wanna wait until the storm if something's wrong
And now you're gone and I can't find ya...

I wanna tell you something
Give you somethin, show you in so many ways.
Cuz it would all mean nuthin, If I don't say something
Before it all blows away.
Don't wanna wait to bring you flowers
Waste another hour, let alone another day
I'm gonna tell you something,
Show you something, won't wait till it's too late.

I can't wait, I cant wait, I won't wait,
I don't wanna wait.

Sunday, August 03, 2008

Happy Face, Sad Face

I was looking through old pictures on my computer late last night and found this little gem. I drew this picture for my dad in second grade... it stayed on our fridge for many years, as you can see from the crumbling edges and watermarks. He scanned it into the computer when we got our first scanner when I was in Jr. High. I remember feeling so proud of myself because my dad loved it and put it up for everyone to see, he even showed his friends when they came over.

The first row shows Happy, Sad and Surprised for boys, and the second row shows Happy, Mad and Surprised for the girls. then the last row is a bit of a wild card. I didn't know "glasses" were an emotion but apparently they are in my world.

I think happy, sad, mad, surprised and scared were the emotions I understood at that point in my life. 15 years later, I have experienced a vast sea of differing emotions... but when I think about it most of my experiences still seem to fit into one of these categories. It is interesting to break down the most complicated of feelings and realize how simple the emotion behind it is.

As Aunt Denise will agree with me (we share this trait), I'm a bit of a "feeling monster." I see my world through the feelings that color it. I evaluate friendships and relationships through the emotions that surface as a result of those bonds. My life is a swirling SEA of colorful, delightful, beautiful, dark, frightening, exciting, confusing, and complicated feelings. Sometimes the waves crash and spill over onto the shore... other times the water level shrinks and you can see from the sand the point where waves once used to softly break.

I've always been a "feeler" for as long as I can remember, and I have loved making my way through that big sea, naming each new feeling one by one as they pass through my experiences. It is also a curse, though, which has manifested itself in more ways than one throughout my life. I don't think I'll ever understand why I came into the world that way... but learning to make my way through that sea is a process I'll always be grateful for.

Lying in bed last night I thought of this--

"Life is an adventure that is ALWAYS worth it." And on the days it doesn't seem worth it, call up a good friend or sibling, look at an old picture, and be reminded of those moments that were good enough to keep you going. Recently a member of my family decided that all the unhappiness and pain he felt wasn't worth waiting out the storm to see what better things lay ahead on shore. His untimely death is reminding me everyday of the things in my life that DO make all the sad times worth navigating through... worth figuring out.

Simple, but it made sense to me while laying in bed in the middle of a hot Phoenix night.

Friday, August 01, 2008

Song of the Week

Neil Young
Tell Me Why
Live at Massey Hall, 1971
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Sailing heart-ships thru broken harbors
Out on the waves in the night.
Still the searcher must ride the dark horse
Racing alone in his fright.

Tell me why... tell me why...

Is it hard to make arrangements with yourself?
When you're old enough to repay but young enough to sell?

Tell me lies later, come and see me
I'll be around for a while.
I am lonely but you can free me,
All in the way that you smile.

Tell me why... tell me why...
Is it hard to make arrangements with yourself?
When you're old enough to repay, but young enough to sell?

Tell me why, tell me why
Tell me why, tell me why...